I think you can just remove the escorting behavior requirement here:
<OnShow>
(and (eq (objGetData gSource "behavior") 'escorting)
(objGetProperty gSource 'playerWingman)
)
</OnShow>
nms 18 Sep 2017:
In 1.8A3 I enabled orders to be issued to escorts in almost any other state.
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